Welcome to Secret Life Podcast
Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine.
Secrets lose their power when you bring them into the light. Secret Life is a weekly podcast hosted by Brianne Davis — author, relationship and accountability coach, and 16 years in recovery from sex and love addiction. Every Monday, Brianne goes deep on one subject — grief, trauma, toxic relationships, codependency, recovery, identity, shame, and the hidden patterns keeping you stuck. Raw, honest, and never sanitized. If you're carrying something you've never said out loud — you're in the right place.
📗 Book 1: Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict — Amazon #1 Bestseller secretlifenovel.com
📗 Book 2: Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate — Available now amazon.com/dp/B0GGCHPJR3
📩 Weekly newsletter: thebriannedavis.substack.com
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Help & Resources - YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Help with Self-Harm: Crisis Text
For some people, when depression and anxiety lead to a tornado of emotions, they turn to self-harm looking for a release. Self-harm and self-injury are any forms of hurting oneself on purpose. Usually, when people self-harm, they do not do so as a suicide attempt. Rather, they self-harm as a way to release painful emotions.
The Prevention Coalition
PreventionCoalition is an informational site designed to educate parents, teachers and concerned community members about teen drug use and ways to prevent it.
Alcoholics Anonymous
Alcoholics Anonymous is an international fellowship of men and women who have had a drinking problem. It is nonprofessional, self-supporting, multiracial, apolitical, and available almost everywhere. There are no age or education requirements. Membership is open to anyone who wants to do something about his or her drinking problem.
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) is a twelve-step program for people recovering from sex addiction and love addiction.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Helpful Links about BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and DPT (Dialectical Behavioural Therapy):
The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance is a national peer-led organization run by individuals with depression and bipolar disorder. It provides support groups, peer specialist training, wellness tools, research, podcasts, brochures, publications and information for clinicians.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals.
Eating Disorder Support
f you or someone you love is struggling with an eating disorder, support is available. The National Alliance for Eating Disorders offers a free helpline staffed by trained clinicians.
Helpline: 1-866-662-1235 Hours: Monday–Friday, 9am–7pm ET
NAMI
The National Alliance on Mental Illness GLBT resources page contains articles, videos, publications, research and links to prominent organizations about GLBT mental health.
Why Mindfulness?
Recent medical research suggests that meditation may have proven neurological benefits, and can support mental health recovery from anxiety and depression. Mindfulness is also a key component in building resiliency when facing life's stressors. We believe that mindfulness is an excellent tool to complement our #KnowB4Stage4 early intervention initiatives. Here is what current scientific research is saying about mindfulness:
RAINN - Sexual Assault Hotline
Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.
How does it work? When you call 800.656.HOPE (4673), you’ll be routed to a local RAINN affiliate organization based on the first six digits of your phone number. Cell phone callers have the option to enter the ZIP code of their current location to more accurately locate the nearest sexual assault service provider.
Helping Survivors
Children sentenced to juvenile detention centers face the prospect of abuse from other inmates, corrections officers, and other staff members. These juveniles cannot legally consent to a sexual encounter, making all instances of sexual contact between staff and children a form of sexual abuse.
Survivors of abuse at juvenile detention centers have rights and legal options to pursue justice and compensation for their losses. Due to recent changes in state laws, many more abuse victims may now be eligible to file lawsuits. If you or a loved one has suffered emotional, physical, or sexual abuse in a juvenile hall, Helping Survivors can connect you with an experienced lawyer who can explain your legal rights and options, including whether you have a civil case or criminal case and how to pursue justice.
Merch
I'm My Own F*cking Soulmate
I Found My Soulmate & It's Me
I'm My Own F*cking Soulmate
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Self-Love is my Superpower
I Found My Soulmate & It's Me
I'm My Own F*cking Soulmate
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I Found My Soulmate & It's Me
I Found My Soulmate & It's Me
I Found My Soulmate & It's Me
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Trust the Process
Trust the Process
I Found My Soulmate & It's Me
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F*ck Shame
Trust the Process
F*ck Shame
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About the Host/Producer
Brianne Davis
Brianne Davis is a relationship and recovery-informed coach and the author of Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate and Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict. With over 16 years of personal recovery experience, she brings lived insight and a deep understanding of human behavior and connection to her work. She is not a licensed therapist, and her coaching focuses on relational patterns, accountability, and personal growth rather than clinical treatment. Her work is dedicated to helping individuals break free from unhealthy dynamics, build authentic relationships, and strengthen self-worth.
Brianne’s structured 14-step coaching framework supports clients in addressing toxic relationship patterns, family-of-origin influences, and long-standing emotional cycles. Drawing inspiration from attachment theory, parts-based frameworks, shadow work, and relationship recovery principles, her integrative approach encourages insight, responsibility, and sustainable change.
Her own journey—from Hollywood actor to recovery advocate—gives her a uniquely empathetic and grounded perspective. Brianne is known for creating a direct, compassionate environment where clients can move beyond surface-level shifts toward meaningful personal growth and stronger relational skills.
Brianne’s voice in this space is amplified by her years of experience in the entertainment industry. She starred as Lena in the History Channel’s military drama Six, and her film and television credits include Lucifer, Casual, Rosewood, True Blood, The Mentalist, Jarhead, and Prom Night. Her background as both an actress and director brings a creative and emotionally attuned perspective to her coaching and storytelling.
As an advocate for open conversations around relationships and recovery, Brianne has been featured on The Doctors and Daily Blast and has written for Cosmopolitan, The Daily Beast, HuffPost, and other publications. Her podcast, Secret Life, is a platform for candid discussions about relationship patterns and personal growth, resonating with thousands of listeners. She is also working on her non-fiction book, F-This: My Relationships Are Killing Me.
Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate
Written by Brianne Davis
Now available on Amazon
A darkly hilarious novel about toxic relationship recovery, emotional sobriety, and becoming your own soulmate.
Roxie thought hitting bottom was the worst day of her life.
Turns out, the real nightmare starts when the chaos stops—because now she has to deal with the one person she’s been avoiding for decades: herself.
She survived the chaos. Now she has to survive herself.
In Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate, Roxie is learning to live without the toxic relationships that once functioned like emotional caffeine. No more disaster men. No more intensity disguised as chemistry. Now it’s just her, the quiet, and her recovery tribe: CoolGirl fighting charm addiction, GlamGirl rebuilding a life she torched twice, TattooGirl hanging on by a thread, Alice insisting she’s “fine,” and Dr. Kath dismantling denial one uncomfortable truth at a time.
With no drama left to hide behind, every unresolved wound comes roaring to the surface. Dating turns into a full-contact sport of ghosters, love-bombers, self-proclaimed spiritual gurus, and one man who brings his emotional support tarot deck. And when “Mr. Handsome” arrives—stable, grounded, and emotionally available—Roxie spirals into the most uncomfortable territory of all: real intimacy.
She’s the one she keeps abandoning.
“Smart, raw, and irresistibly candid.”
—Emily Giffin, New York Times Best-Selling Author of Something Borrowed
Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Novel
"A powerful, raw and vulnerable read.”—Olivia Munn, actress, The Newsroom
"Unflinchingly candid. Unspeakably sexy. And oh, so curiously entertaining."—Steve Antin, Golden Globe winner, Burlesque
Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict has the vibrant, relatable vibe of chick lit, the soul-baring honesty of a memoir and the wisdom of a self-help book.
In this unique roman à clef novel, Brianne Davis shares her own intimate experience with the transformational power of recovery, providing strength and hope for anyone who wants to change their life forever.
Imagine if Sex and the City's Samantha discovered she was an addict and her drug of choice was MEN. Go on a hilarious, inspiring, and at times, shocking journey as Roxanne conquers her fears, changes her ways, gets closer to healthy relationships and begins loving herself a little more each day.
After years of working as an image-obsessed actress in Hollywood, Roxanne finds herself at rock bottom from a disease that is anything but glamorous. In her first year of recovery, Roxanne has to take accountability for her past. From tales of being mistaken for a prostitute at the Hotel Bel-Air to botching a threesome attempt with an A-list celebrity, she must face the truth about herself and stop playing the victim.
Roxanne's odyssey of using sex and love—as destructive and beguiling as an alcoholic reaching for a bottle—is a veritable rollercoaster of ups and downs, laughter and tears, and a true testament to facing your absolute truth and conquering your fears.
“Actress Brianne Davis takes us behind the glitz and glamour for a brutally candid, no-holds-barred look at Tinseltown’s forever-favorite addiction: sex. How does a pretty Southern girl-gone-Hollywood beat her demon of choice? You’ll cry... and laugh... as you join her harrowing and hilarious ride to sex-addiction sobriety.”
—SPENCER BECK, Former editor-in-chief of LA Confidential, editor-in-chief Los Angeles and contributing editor at Vanity Fair
“Add to the list of her talents as actress and performer the fact that Brianne Davis can write! Her stories are honest, almost to the point of painfully so, as she tells the story of navigating a world where sex and beauty are commodities to be used and abused by those who have the power. At the end of the day, like Sex and the City, this is a tale of finding one’s self and reasserting a true feminist ideal: that your destiny is yours to create.”
—LUCY DANZIGER, New York Times best-selling author of The Nine Rooms of Happiness and former editor-in-chief of SELF
“It takes a lot of courage to do what Brianne is doing in this book. To mirror her life into Roxanne is not only fearless, but wildly entertaining. It’s a world with so much darkness, yet Brianne has not only found the humor but the story to bring it to life because, let’s face it, we all want to know more.”
—JANA KRAMER, singer, actress on One Tree Hill, and New York Times best-selling author of The Good Fight
About the Producer
Mark Gantt
Mark Gantt is a multifaceted talent in the entertainment industry, known for his work as an actor, director, producer, and writer. With over 35 years of recovery from alcohol, drugs, smoking, gambling, debt, and codependency, he is a dedicated advocate for mental health awareness.
Mark coaches individuals struggling with addiction and relationships alongside his wife, Brianne Davis, with whom he co-produces the Secret Life Podcast, aiming to destigmatize mental health issues.
As a director, Mark has worked on projects like "Murder In Mexico: The Bruce Beresford-Redman Story" and various branded series for platforms like AOL, Lifetime, and the Better Sleep Council. He has also written projects for Lifetime, including "Her Deadly Boyfriend" and "Deadly Infidelity." Mark's latest film, "Soul Mates," is now in theaters and available on demand.
His on-screen credits include appearances in popular television shows and films such as "Criminal Minds," "American Horror Story: Hotel," and "Ocean's Eleven." Mark gained recognition for his role as Neal Bannen in the Streamy Award-winning web series "The Bannen Way," which later became a feature film.
Mark's storytelling prowess extends to co-writing the Audible Original series "A Devil in the Valley" and producing projects like "Psychophonia" and two horror/sci-fi films, "The Night Visitor" and "The Night Visitor 2: Heather's Story," with Brianne Davis.
In his coaching practice, he specializes in concierge recovery, addiction, trauma, and relationships. His unique background allows him to work discreetly with young adults and high-net-worth professionals, assisting them in navigating challenges and creating meaningful change. Whether you're struggling with addiction, trapped in a toxic relationship, or haunted by past traumas, Mark is here to help you turn your story into one of resilience, hope, and inspiration.
Substack Newsletter
EVERY SUNDAY. NO TOXIC POSITIVITY. JUST THE TRUTH.
Once a week I write to you the way I'd talk to a friend who's doing the work. Whatever I'm sitting with, learning the hard way, or think might actually help you. The show is where the stories live. This letter is where we go deeper.
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When the drama stops, the real work begins.
Becoming My Own F‑ing Soulmate is about what happens after the chaos ends—when there’s no one left to blame, fix, or obsess over. From the world of Secret Life comes a new novel about emotional sobriety, endings, and becoming your own safe place.